A person who is reliable and believes anybody turns into the complete opposite and becomes skeptical. 

A trusting person turns into a skeptic.

They feel everything has to be checked or double checked.

That would take too long.

The first person could be your son, who is old enough to go to the grocery store alone and then take the groceries out to the car, load the car, and come inside without any adult supervision.

If he did that, we would all be so grateful and say “What a good boy!”

Then your son’s trust would be shattered and he would never trust anyone ever again.

Why?

Because we would have turned into total idiots.

When your son comes back inside, we would ask, “How did you manage to take the groceries out to the car?

The bags are a little heavy and you’re just a little boy.”

He would reply with a sweet smile and say, “It’s easy.”

Then we would all laugh, knowing full well it wasn’t easy.

Then we would say, “Let’s see how you take the groceries out to the car.”

We would encourage him to put the bags down and then open the car door all by himself.

He would say, “I’ve never done it that way before.”

We would say, “That’s what I am talking about.

I have never been brave enough to do this.

Are you going to do it?”

He would say, “Okay, just don’t tell my mom I was never brave enough to do it.”

We would be all nervous, but we would hold our breath and watch.

I can tell you what would happen next.

He would try to open the car door by pulling on the handle and screaming.

That’s a big mistake because it is a roll down door.

It does not open.

The more he screams, the more he screams and the more it doesn’t open.

He finally gives up and screams, “That’s not working!”

Then he comes inside, still angry and hurt.

We would say, “Why are you so mad?”

He would say, “I’m not mad.

I just had a bad experience and I don’t want anyone to think I’m not brave enough to do this by myself.”

We would say, “I think it is a big mistake to scream at a person because of a mistake they made.

You should not think a lot about what happened.

It is over and done with.

Move on.

Now go get your mother and show her how you took the groceries out to the car.”

He would say, “Okay, but I don’t know how to get her up out of the chair.

The wheels are really heavy and she is heavy too.”

We would say, “I have never been brave enough to lift your mother.

Are you going to do it?”

He would say, “Sure, let’s see if I can do it.”

He would then try to get her out of the chair by pulling on the arms.

This is a very bad mistake because she is really heavy and he is only a little boy.

He will cry and be very angry.

We would say, “Why are you crying?

It is over and done with.

Now go get your mom and show her how you took the groceries out to the car.”

He would say, “I can’t move her.

It hurts and it is not working.”

We would say, “Are you sure it is not working?

Go try and see.”

He would say, “It hurts